I'm so annoyed!

On Monday of this week, Miss 12's social worker returned from holiday.  Now may I point out while her social worker has been on holiday she has been excellently behaved! The social worker filling in wasn't her 'mate' but her social worker.  Now original social worker is back - cue the tantrums and sulks! Seriously - how does one social worker have such an impact!

Aside from that, aside from the fact Miss 12 was just getting used to the fact she wouldn't be returning to her family - Miss Social Worker filled her in that all hope was not lost yet - she may still get to live with her mum (who she was taken off three years ago...she has been with her aunty since).  Now mum isn't an overly desirable option.  Give her a chance sure...but give her the chance to prove she can meet the requirements before getting Miss 12's hopes up.

Now that Miss 12's hopes are up...she has lost the idea of getting comfortable with the impending life changes.  Gone back to some of the behaviours we were seeing at the start, that we've worked through and helped her develop strategies to get around those behaviours.

Next thing, Miss Social Worker asks for my opinion on whether or not Miss 12 should be allowed to attend the meeting with her family about the future.  No way!  She is very emotionally involved in every decision, and suffers considerably after any of these conversations. To put her in on one of these conversations - would be detrimental not only to her behavior - but her sense of belonging and wellbeing!

My opinion wasn't that important though. Today we hear - "I've decided to let her go to the meeting, I will pick her up from school".  Awesome. Just bloody awesome.  You'll sit there with her through the meeting.  Then hang out with her for a bit afterward and talk about how you are doing the best for her, buy her a take out lunch, give her a hot chocolate - and then give her back to us to deal with the consequences later.

The social worker causing us these concerns is leaving in two weeks.  But unfortunately most of the big decisions are going to be made within the next two weeks.  I really don't trust her social workers judgement...I hope there are others advising her today.