Missed experiences

When you haven't had the opportunity to be a child, you find that opportunity when you can.  If you look at 'some' of the kids that play up in schools...why - because at home they have to take it all so seriously.

When you look at kids in foster care, a lot of not had the experiences you or I had as a child that make us positive and contributing members of society.

We learn to trust when our parents play peek-a-boo and they come back agin.  We learn to trust when dad chucks us up in the air and catches us.  We learn to trust when there is a stormy night outside and they crawl into their parents bed and hide under the covers.

But you don't learn to trust if you don't have positive interactions with people you know you can depend upon.  You don't learn safe risk, if you don't have people to trust.

Even at 13, if a child missed out on experiences as a child, they will want childhood reassurances.

It's not uncommon for Miss 13 to play games with Mr 31 that involve them chasing each other around the couch.

It's not uncommon for Miss 13 to ask...if I do xxx, what will happen.  If I run away, will you chase me.

It's not uncommon to wake up and find Miss 13 has crawled under the covers of my bed.  "What are you doing here?" I asked this morning.  "You can't stop me" she responded.  Well...she is a 13 year old after all, she can't admit the absence of Mr 31 in the house had her so anxious she didn't sit still all evening.


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